I’ve never been one to drink, and sure I had my college years with some memorable and not-so-memorable nights. But I never liked how it made me feel, especially as I got older. Having a hangover is so not worth it with three little kids. I can barely keep up as it is! So, while my taste isn’t for alcohol, I see many jokes about moms drinking wine, not just enjoying it but almost like we can’t get through the day without our bottle. A bottle for baby and a bottle for mommy (insert pic of mommy’s wine bottle). Since when did moms get a wrap for being alcoholics? Sure, I’m not saying moms can’t or shouldn’t enjoy a glass of any alcoholic beverage, but I never got the joke and honestly don’t appreciate it. Being a mom is tough, and being a parent is tough, so I get that drinking may be your “brake.”
But how about some positive ways to have our brake. Let’s normalize meditation, talking to a counselor, exercising, getting together with friends, or even having a play date with your mom friends without alcohol. So many seem afraid to show mental health needs and would rather crack a joke at “mommy’s treat for the day,” meaning another glass of wine so they can “deal” with their kid.
How about we talk about it instead? Do you need to recharge, or are there issues that maybe need to be addressed?
I know I’m a better mom when I take care of myself and being tipsy is not something I need to be in order to parent my kid. Nor do I want to be known for that. It’s also dangerous. Before I kill your buzz entirely, I hope this promotes more self-care in positive forms. We hold a lot on our shoulders, and I’m not saying you’re a terrible mom because you enjoy a glass of wine. I am saying, though, that we need positive self-care, so we don’t feel like we need that glass to be a better mom. Focus on your habits and make choices that will enable you to be self-aware of your choices. I need to learn to make time for myself, and exercise helps immensely. I had to think, why am I not doing this more? There are hundreds of excuses so let this be my reminder to do it!
I want to start seeing posts like, oh, mommy didn’t get her run today, did she? Rather than mommy didn’t get her glass of wine yet, huh? The positive image reflects more than just how we feel but also our children. They will make healthy choices because we are making healthy choices. We have to model good behavior. Find your motivation to make the changes you need. Take time to think about it as well. Maybe you hate working out but love to walk with a friend; start a walking group. Whatever it is, find what helps you calm and regain your sanity.
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