Addressing Social Comparison Concerns

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Addressing Social Comparison Concerns
Addressing Social Comparison Concerns

Editor’s Note: The California Partners Project conducted a statewide listening tour with California mothers, parents, and caregivers to understand how they navigated the integration of technology and devices into most aspects of their children’s lives. These evolving toolkits and best practices are meant to meet parents where they are. Addressing Social Comparison Concerns is the ninth toolkit.

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Social comparison occurs when an individual determines their self-worth by judging oneself against others. It can be exacerbated through social media; today’s youth find connection and meaning through the likes and comments built into social media. According to UCSF Professor of Pediatrics Dr. Jason Nagata, “More time on social media can lead to more comparisons to peers. This may also lead to exposure to unattainable body ideals and higher dissatisfaction with their own bodies. Social media use is linked to higher risk of developing eating disorders.” While social media can be a source of connection, Dr. Suniya Luthar has conducted research showing online social comparison is a risk factor, over and above many others, for depression and anxiety in teens. (Adversity and Resilience Sci 1, 135-147 2020

Tips to address social comparison concerns

Tip 1: Find ways to emphasize strengths and skills over image.

The Child Mind Institute recommends that youth have “many sources of self-esteem.” Especially for young women, make sure to compliment your child on what she does and her effort, not just her appearance. Highlight your child’s strengths and abilities and support their interests. (Child Mind Institute

Tip 2: Role model authentic connections for yourself and facilitate this type of connection with your child.

Psychologist Dr. Suniya Luthar, founder of the nonprofit AC Groups, reminds us that “kids do what they see and not what you say to them. Demonstrate the power of your own sustaining relationships and your own sense of self-worth. Help your child feel unconditionally accepted. Your child will be protected from the potential negative impact of online social comparison if they feel they have a trusted adult who loves them and sees them for who they really are.” 

Tip 3: Encourage critical thinking through conversation and observation.

Psychologist Dr. Pamela Rutledge, Director of the Media Psychology Research Center, suggests youth keep a diary for one week documenting how they feel while using social media. This will help them be more mindful of their activities and feelings. Parents should also complete a diary to enrich the conversation and encourage future connection. Help youth see the role of influencers in defining what is desirable. Try to understand what it is about “likes” or a post that is impacting your child; create space for them to share their inner dialogue (self-talk). 

Tip 4: Suggest an experiment.

Some social media apps allow users to turn off the “like” function. If you notice your child may benefit from a break, Dr. Pamela Rutledge suggests a parent ask, “what would it be like to turn off the likes or image filters?” and recommend a trial period to test out how it feels not to track likes or filter images. 

Resources

https://profiles.ucsf.edu/jason.nagata

https://childmind.org/article/what-selfies-are-doing-to-girls-self-esteem/

https://www.acgroups.org/

https://www.pamelarutledge.com/

 

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As California mothers, we are bringing these toolkits to you through a cross-collaborative campaign. San Francisco Bay Area Moms is proud to be working with Ventura County Mom Collective and Inland Empire Mom Collective. We too, want to “ensure our state’s media and technology industries are a force for good in child development” (part of the California Partners Project Mission Statement). #TechTips4CaliMoms

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Tracy is a Lead Instructor for Darkness to Light, a child sexual abuse prevention organization and serves as a College and Career Advisor for Students Rising Above. She grew up in northeast Ohio, and has lived in Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Arizona, and Northern Virginia and has worked in the arts, in education, in non-profits and in ed tech. Her husband's job brought them to the Bay Area and there's no looking back! Tracy is mom to a 17-year-old daughter and 14-year-old son. Self-care includes pedicures, reading, cooking, crafting, and just being with her family. She also serves on the Citizen's Bond Oversight Committee for the Dublin School District and on the Advisory Council for the Transformative Leadership in Disruptive Times Certificate Program at Cal State East Bay.

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