Friendship while Pregnant

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What was your pregnancy like? Here’s mine in four sentences.

At the end of my first pregnancy, I was a thirty-five-year-old resuming college student carrying a heavy workload of psychology books on my back and a seven-pound baby in my belly. At the beginning of that pregnancy, I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes at nine weeks and assigned to a dietitian. Despite a daily workout and hypervigilance of my diet and insulin levels, I added sixty pounds to my 5’3” inch frame. I was physically and emotionally heavy.

Pregnant with Friends
Friendship while Pregnant

Do you know what I remember the most? A stranger at the doctor’s office commented, “What’s the hardest part so far?” I replied, “I thought I’d have more control over this diet and this pregnancy, to be honest.” 

She replied, “Oh, honey. Abandon any need for control. That’s motherhood.” 

I’ve spent the last seven years attempting to abandon any sense of control. I do better on some days than others. Mostly, I’m grateful for the women in my life who have been on this journey with me. I was lucky enough to have been pregnant at the same time as four of my dear friends. Along with them, the moms I’ve met at places like Gymboree, mommy and me classes, local parks, and church communities have been my go-to when my second baby followed shortly after my first and when my home was at peak toddlerhood.

Pregnant with Friends
Pregnant with Friends
Pregnant with Friends

On October 8th, I’ll join San Francisco Bay Area Moms in Walnut Creek for our annual Bloom Event. An event for new and expecting moms. While I don’t expect to experience any baby fever, I will feel a little FOMO at the bond that two pregnant women in the third trimester experience. Afterall, creating life is overwhelming and sharing that experience means we are not alone. I expect to feel a pull to give unsolicited advice to a mom who hasn’t slept in weeks. Luckily for attendees at Bloom we’ll have an expert panel with real advice from professionals in all sorts of different fields. Join us! I’ll also be recording a live Hella MomVersations at the event! The event is free, but I highly recommend a VIP tickets – it’s totally worth it. 

Friendship while Pregnant
Friendship while Pregnant
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Olga Rosales Salinas is Managing Editor for San Francisco Bay Area Moms. As a freelance writer and journalist, her articles have been published nationally by palabra, National Association of Hispanic Journalists. Other bylines have appeared in Voices of Monterey Bay, Jumble & Flow and various others. Her debut collection of poetry and prose, La Llorona, was published by Birch Bench Press in August of 2021. In 2019 her philanthropy and activism began with a non-profit benefiting first-generation and immigrant students, The Rosales Sisters' Scholarship. She has had spotlights in the following podcasts and radio stations; THINK/NPR with Krys Boyd, Los Sotelos Podcast, The Hive Poetry Collective @ksqd.org, Walk the Talk Podcast, "Making a Difference with Sheetal Ohri" on Bolly 92.3 FM, and Roll Over Easy @BFFdotFM Radio.

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